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The holiday season is a time when families gather, and it is a great opportunity to renew and strengthen family bonds and relationships. But, just because the family is getting together, doesn’t necessarily mean that the older adult will openly and freely communicate any health issues, sense of loneliness, deferred home maintenance , or memory concerns. Be proactive to include them in the conversation.
In fact, it is common for older members of the family to say; “everything is great and I feel wonderful – just great to have you all together for the holiday.” This is the time to spend more than the obligatory one or two hours at a holiday dinner time with your older loved ones. It is the time to spend 24/7 with your loved parent/grandparent. Get to really understand their daily living routine.
Bridging the Gap in Conversation
Sometimes younger family members aren’t sure how to talk to parents or grandparents if they feel a divide between the generations. Here are a few tips to bridge the gap and maintain a quality conversation during your holiday gathering:
- Find Your Loved One’s Hot Button: Ask those open ended questions that generate a conversation. Embrace and encourage your older family member to talk about past glories and what they see for their future. Is your loved one a veteran? What was your loved one’s job history? Where did they grow up? What are their childhood memories?
- Maintain Family Traditions: Is there a certain tradition that your parents worked hard to maintain when you were young? Look for ways that you can maintain that tradition when you are planning the family party.
- Be Aware of Hearing Loss: Just because a grandparent isn’t participating in the conversation, doesn’t mean that they aren’t interested in what you have to say. Sometimes, hearing loss can make it hard for them to follow the conversation. Speak up a little more to include all members of the family in the room.
- Reminisce on Memories of the Past: Pull out the scrapbooks or watch old family films to remember fun times that were shared It can mean a lot to aging adults to look back on the memories that were created.
At Greenwald &Gerke Realtors, we want to be sure that you have the perfect home for your family gathering. Choosing the right living situation can make it easier to gather the family throughout the year. Talk to us to learn more about real estate services for aging adults: (844) 782-9674
It is very natural human response and emotion to get frustrated with an adult as they age. You want your Mom and Dad to stay young forever. You want to be there to stop your parent(s) from making what you perceive as bad choices. Sounds like a normal parent – children relationship, doesn’t it? Now it is in reverse when it becomes a child – parent dynamic. These interactions can cause strain and resentment in the relationship, making it harder for family members to get along.
So, it is important to have self awareness about how conversations should be managed to maintain respect between all parties that are involved. Here are a few tips to help you know what you should never say to a mature adult:
You Already Said That
People of all ages repeat things without realizing that they already said something. A loved one, your friend, your neighbor might repeat stories, and it is important never to make them feel bad about the information they are sharing. Listen to the story without passing judgment and engage the conversation in building the relationship together.
I’ll Do That for You
Never assume that you should handle a task that a person can do on their own. If someone is moving slow, there is a temptation to jump in with an offer to help. It might be easier to quickly complete the task and move on with the day, but that takes away the independence of an individual. In a situation where help might be needed, always ask permission before jumping in to help.
It’s counterproductive to tell a mature adult that they are confused, even if they are moving at a slower pace compared to a younger person. Sometimes it takes a longer time to master a task, but that doesn’t mean that the person is confused about the things they are doing. Keep in mind that each person has their learning curve and some people require a little more time to learn a new skill.
At Greenwald & Gerke Realtors, we have an experienced team that enjoys working with mature adults. We offer the respect and attention that each person deserves. If you are looking for real estate services for aging adults, then you are welcome to call us anytime to learn more: (844) 782-9674